"Oh my God, Buffy, look at its arms!"
1. The bridesmaid dresses! How hideous are they, on a scale of "not really that bad" to "oh my god these totally reset the bar on hideous bridesmaid dresses! Well done costume department!"
Mean: 7.05 Median: 7 Std. Dev 2.19
2. Anya's outfit. How pretty is it, on a scale of "no better than the bridesmaid dresses, really" to "omg she's so beautiful!!!"
Mean: 6.53 Median: 6 Std. Dev 1.87
3. The characters get a number of really warm, cute moments together in this episode. Your favorite?
Buffy and Willow! Best friends bonding over hideous outfits -- I love it.
Buffy and Spike! What a sweet, MATURE post-relationship conversation they have here.
Willow and Tara! It has to be Willow and Tara. Come on you guys, get to the makeup sex already.
Anya and Tara! Anya is so happy! Tara is so delightful! Sex poodle!
4. In other episodes, we see that most demons have the ability to appear human if they want. Why don't they here?
So the writers can work in the racism metaphors.
Racism metaphors, but they're a bit clunky.
Totally hackneyed racism metaphors that don't work at all.
Well, there has to be something driving the external conflict or we'd all be as bored as Cousin Carol.
Anya kinda screwed up and forgot to put "human-face formal" on the invitations that went out to the demon realm.
It's Xander. He could have requested human face, but instead he got all passive-aggressive against both sides of his prospective family and wanted to torture them with each other.
I don't know! I never worried about it before! Curse you, BTVS quiz!
5. One thing this episode has going for it is a huge cast -- we get to meet a lot of characters for the first time, as well as getting cameos from previous bit players. Favorite (or most interesting) new character/cameo?
That demon guy Dawn talks to
Anya's hypothetical illegitimate demon child who looks an awful lot like Clem, doesn't she?
6. Xander's nightmare vision of the next 30 years with Anya. What do you think?
Kinda stereotyped and unconvincing. They're basically a demonic version of The Lockhorns.
They need to be a LOT worse to set up what follows.
They show Xander turning into his father. That's all they need to do.
Ugh, I hate them. HATE THEM.
7. Psychoanalyze Xander for me. Why DOES he call off the wedding?
He's suddenly terrified -- with some cause -- of turning into his father.
He's just seen himself not only learn to hate Anya, but turn physically abusive toward her. He's scared of himself. He's trying to protect her.
He's just been reminded of Anya's dark side -- a thousand years as a vengeance demon, torturing men, and really, never showing any particular remorse over it. Suddenly he can't deal. He's scared of her.
He's an emotional coward.
No, it's not him. The writers arbitrarily have him act like a big jerk and I DON'T BUY IT.
8. Everyone hates this story turn, pretty much. What kind of hate do you have for it?
It breaks my heart, but in a believable real-world kind of way -- I hate it the way I would hate a friend of mine making the same choice.
I don't believe it as character behavior. They were simply too happy JUST LAST WEEK.
I hate it as a story decision. It would have been more interesting to let Xander and Anya get married and find new conflict in that direction.
I hate it today, but it paves the way for Selfless in Season 7, so I retroactively forgive it.
Actually, I don't hate it.
9. Given his doubts, and given that it's far too late to have called off the wedding months ago, what SHOULD Xander have done here?
Postponed the wedding for a few hours so he could have a long talk with Anya, during which they came to a mutual agreement about how they should proceed.
Postponed the wedding indefinitely without canceling it.
Stood up in front of everyone and formally called off the wedding instead of running away like a little baby.
Gone through the ceremony to make Anya happy now, and tried to work through his issues, knowing that marriage doesn't actually have to be forever.
Gone through with the wedding as originally planned, of course, knowing that having seen his nightmare version of their years together, he will have the strength to avoid it.
You know? Given the choices available, he actually does the best thing possible.
10. The final scene, between Anya and D'Hoffryn. How did you react the first time you saw it?
I'm in suspense! I don't know what she's going to choose!
Ho hum. Totally saw it coming.
Oh, so that's where they're going with that.
NO! NO! ANYA! DON'T DO IT!
Cool. Now we're gonna get to see Vengeance Anya.
WILLOW: I'm supposed to be the best man. Shouldn't I be all Marlene Dietrichy in a dashing tuxedo number?
WILLOW: Maybe if I ask Anya I can still go with the traditional blood larva and burlap.
XANDER: What if I can't wear my cummerbund and the whole world sees the place where my pants meet my shirt?
ANYA: I, Anya, promise to love you, to cherish you, and to honor you, but not to obey you, of course, because that's anachronistic and misogynistic and who do you think you are, like, a sea captain or something?
D'HOFFRYN: May the love we celebrate today avoid an almost inevitable decline.
SPIKE: You meet my friend? BUFFY: Haven't met. She seems like a very nice attempt at making me jealous.
SPIKE: It's nice, watching you be happy. You glow. BUFFY: That's because the dress is radioactive.
TARA: Uh, I'm not sure you should say 'sex poodle' in your vows.
BUFFY: Oh yes, he's a doctor as well as a minister. He's like, half-minister, half-doctor. A mini-tor. Not, of course, to be confused with a minotaur! Because he's all man, this minister-doctor man -- no bull parts, whatsoever.
KAREN: I'm bored. COUSIN CAROL: It's a wedding, honey. We're all bored.
12. Rate this episode
Mean: 5.37 Median: 5 Std. Dev 1.75
Bonus question! Have you ever been forced to wear a truly hideous version of a bridesmaid dress or similar formal attire?
Bonus question! Did you know SMG could juggle?
Not to be confused with Hells Belles, the all-female AC/DC cover band.